

If you’d like to work with someone on your intimacy issues, please reach out to me. To miss out on it would be a tragic shame. The bottom line is, intimacy is a wonderful part of life. He or she can also help you heal from any past traumas so you can start to get close and connect with others. A therapist can help you identify the root of your trouble and help you weed it out. If you believe you have a fear of intimacy, sex therapy is a powerful tool that can help you work through any underlying causes. From childhood trauma to low self-worth and fear of rejection, people from all walks of life, all ages, and all backgrounds have developed a fear of getting close to another person. There are a variety of reasons a person may experience fear of intimacy. Many avoid physical contact and are unable to easily share their feelings or express emotions. They may experience episodes of anger from time to time and have a history of toxic relationships. While this may result in a sense of being. Thanks to technology, we’re always just a text message away. Intimacy issues may be on the rise due to the way relationships have been changing. People who fear intimacy often have low self-esteem and trust issues. Intimacy issues can range drastically, from a total fear of intimacy to feeling uncomfortable during sex or having trouble confiding in your partner. While many people struggle with a fear of intimacy, not everyone knows the signs and symptoms, as they can be mistaken for other emotions. Ultimately, intimacy is a wonderful byproduct of an emotional connection that has been built over time by two individuals who deeply love and respect each other. It means showing up, flaws and all, and putting in the work. Because to be intimate means to open yourself up to another human being. While intimacy brings unparalleled joy into our lives, it can also feel incredibly frightening to some people. It is a connection that is developed over time. Intimacy is TRUE and genuine closeness with another human being. Most people look for that perfect relationship because they want real, true intimacy in their life. You create tension and distance by sharing your disapproval directly and leave your partner feeling insecure about your commitment to them.When people desire to be in a relationship, they are not wanting or needing company or someone to do things with. This thinking keeps you from having two feet in the relationship. You revisit your list of reasons why your partner is not right for you, over and over in your head.

You are more comfortable having sex with someone you hardly know.You avoid times when your partner might want to be sexual with you. It may be common for you to wonder if you are sexually attracted to this person. Very often, however, problems with physical intimacy occur as a relationship ages. You become disinterested in sex with your partner and often justify that it lacks something. About 3 months into the relationship, you avoid physical intimacy.You often have to be pressured into a commitment and then you are still thinking about others. You are slow to announce that you are in a committed relationship and take down dating profiles. In the early part of the relationship, you may still have hook ups. Despite dating someone, you keep the door open to meet others. You are hesitant to commit to one relationship.Hearing what your partner needs can reek of control or heavy demands and it makes you want to run the other way. A relationship becomes more challenging for you as it shifts out of the honeymoon phase ( which is when disagreements and negotiations start to occur).

You like the early stages of relationships.

Your relationships usually last 6-9 months.Phrases like “you disappear when I need you” and “you weren’t there for me” have been uttered about you before. Your responses to texts and phone calls are delayed and you often hear “why didn’t you call” or “I didn’t hear back from you.” You also have a history of being unavailable when your partner thought they could count on you. You let your partner down when they need you.The complaint that “you are not there for me” is familiar to you. When your partner tries to lean on you emotionally, you create circumstances that derail or avoid the process. They try and be vulnerable with you but you are uncomfortable with emotion and find it difficult to discuss feelings. You’re shut down with your partner emotionally.
